Lindsay Mills
Lindsay is the Director of Matchmaking and Recruitment for Executive Matchmakers. She is an Oklahoma native with a Bachelor’s degree from the University of Tulsa. Prior to joining the matchmaking scene in 2011, Lindsay worked in a variety of industries including Commercial Real Estate and Marketing for Hollywood’s Elite. Her relationships in the Entertainment industry inspired her to use her talents to bring people together and help them find love. Lindsay’s passion is helping others create their own unique love story.
30 Questions to Get the Conversation Going
March 15, 2021
I believe everyone opens up at their own pace, so I categorize interactions into small talk, ice breakers, and connection builders with each one digging a little deeper to get to know the other person better.
Below, I’ve compiled ten sample questions for each section.
Conversation is a delicate dance of leading and following. It’s a matter of giving and receiving information. There’s an art to being vulnerable and asking probing questions without crossing a boundary or oversharing.
If you’re going to ask about deal breakers, be cautious in how you do so. You don’t want to give off negative energy.
For example, don’t ask your date who she voted for or to which political party she subscribes. At the same time, don’t announce those things about yourself. It’s too direct and very off-putting. Instead, focus on sharing your core values and learning about hers.
If your values align, the rest will follow.
March 15, 2021DatingBody Language,Anxiety,Social Connectors,First Date,Love Languages,Gifts,Book Recommendations,Deal Breakers,Boundaries,Small Talk,Ice Breakers
Imbalance in Your Relationship: Should You Stay or Should You Go?
March 11, 2021
Nothing in life is even, fair, or balanced. There is always a give and take, credits and debits. But what happens when there’s a significant imbalance in your relationship for a long period of time? When one of you isn’t pulling your weight?
Relationships are never 50/50, despite couples unfairly using this as the golden rule. Sometimes the balance is 60/40 or even a 25/75 ratio. Shifting efforts is common and expected.
When it becomes a problem is when those inequities remain imbalanced long-term. Partnerships don’t run on autopilot. Both parties must take the driver’s seats at times. Great partnerships have two sets of keys and you both need to drive from time to time.
March 11, 2021DatingLove Languages,Acts of Service,Quality Time,Book Recommendations,Rejection,Divorce,Break Ups,Red Flags,Boundaries
Putting Yourself Out There: Ready for a Relationship or Just Want Attention?
March 4, 2021
If you are single, chances are you have been putting yourself out there in some form, whether it be with a matchmaking service, posting an online profile, or venturing out in public situations with a goal of meeting someone.
But before you go putting yourself out there, think about what it is that you are really seeking. And if you don’t know, maybe this will help you consider defining what you are looking for in the first place.
March 4, 2021DatingOnline Dating,COVID,Divorce,Attention Seeking Behavior,Red Flags
Breaking Up With Your Deal Breakers
March 1, 2021
Today I want to talk about breaking up with your deal breakers. The term deal breaker can refer to a lot of things, so for the purpose of this article, let’s define them as criteria you use to disqualify a potential match before ever even meeting them.
What if it’s less about you needing to date a Catholic, and more that you desire a partner with a faith and a good moral compass? Perhaps you don’t necessarily need someone with a graduate degree, as long as they’re intelligent and ambitious. Both of those things alone can broaden your pool of potential daters significantly.
March 1, 2021DatingFirst Date,COVID,Book Recommendations,Rejection,Reflection,Deal Breakers,Break Ups,Boundaries,Barriers
Dating After Divorce: How to Prepare for a New Chapter
February 22, 2021
According to researchers, divorce is the second most stressful life event one can experience. Preceded only by the death of a loved one and followed by a health crisis. Dating after divorce can be equally stressful if you’re not prepared.
The first thing you should consider is how dating has evolved tremendously over the last decade. Tinder came on the scene in September 2012, followed by Bumble in 2014.
So, chances are things will be very different from first dates you’ve experienced in the past. Gone are the days of buying her flowers and picking her up at her front door for a first date.
February 22, 2021DatingAnxiety,Online Dating,Love Languages,Gifts,Physical Touch,Ghosting,Reflection,Divorce,Break Ups,Attention Seeking Behavior
How to Handle Rejection Like a Boss
February 15, 2021
The first step in learning how to handle rejection like a boss is to reframe the way you talk about and think about rejection.
You did not get rejected. Your proposal was rejected.
If you proposed going on a date and they declined, that’s okay.
If you proposed taking your relationship to the next level and they ghosted, that’s okay.
Unless you shared way too much information and downloaded your life story, they barely even know you. They are more or less a stranger, so don’t let them define you. Allow their disinterest or disapproval to roll right off your back.
Even if you proposed marriage and they ran away crying, it’s still going to be okay.
Rejection is not a reflection of you or your character.
February 15, 2021DatingAnxiety,First Date,Book Recommendations,Law of Attraction,Ghosting,Rejection,Break Ups
World’s Worst Dating Advice
January 27, 2021
Rules are meant to be broken. It’s a new decade, so take the worst dating advice you’ve been told throughout the years erase it from your memory.
There is an entire genre of self-help books dedicated to dating advice, much of which is solid, data-based research, but an equal amount is opinion-based and anecdotal. As they say, don’t believe everything you read.
Soulmates, twin flames, love at first sight, happily ever after—these are the types of magical love we strive for from our very first bedtime story.
Real life love is much more practical. Don’t get me wrong, it has its magical moments when you swear the earth stops spinning. But true love, the kind that lasts forever, is a choice that must be made every single day.
Love is a verb as much as it is a noun.
January 27, 2021DatingAuthenticity,Social Connectors,First Date,New Year,Book Recommendations,Deal Breakers,Boundaries
Relationship Resolutions for the New Year
December 30, 2020
I think it is safe to say we are all more than ready to say goodbye to 2020. But now is the time to really reflect on your year and start to develop a plan for 2021 and beyond. How do you want to work on yourself? What sort of relationship resolutions do you want to put out into the universe?
The only true control we have in this world is over ourselves and our actions. You can’t change other peoples’ behaviors—only your own. Therefore, any real change starts from within.
Whether you want to develop a healthier work/life balance, start a new exercise regimen, or meet the love of your life next year, you need to start putting in the work today.
December 30, 2020Dating,HolidaysAnxiety,First Date,Online Dating,COVID,Holidays,New Year,Book Recommendations,Law of Attraction,Reflection,Deal Breakers
So You Want to Date a Doctor?
December 16, 2020
First, on behalf of all of us here at Executive Matchmakers, I would like to say a sincere thank you to all of the health care workers and front line staff for their continued selfless work during the COVID-19 pandemic. We urge you all to please continue to follow all CDC Guidelines to keep everyone safe, especially if you want to date a doctor!
Even before the first date you can make some pretty fair assumptions. For instance, the guy finished Med School, so you know he’s smart, driven, and committed. All highly-coveted characteristics in the dating pool.
December 16, 2020DatingAnxiety,First Date,Love Languages,COVID,Quality Time,Physical Touch,Ghosting
Are You Feeling Lonely or Are You Just Alone?
December 2, 2020
One can be standing in an arena full of people and still feel completely alone. The two concepts are not mutually exclusive. On the other hand, you’re capable of feeling fulfilled even when you’re all by yourself.
Today, I want to focus on providing strategies that will help you achieve the latter.
According to Psychology Today, long-term feelings of loneliness can have the same physical impact on the body as smoking or obesity. Extended social isolation can even lead to PTSD, anxiety, and addiction.
December 2, 2020Dating,HolidaysAnxiety,Online Dating,Love Languages,Quality Time,Rejection,Reflection,Divorce,Break Ups